Do you believe in there being The One?

Happy Friday! Welcome back friends to another segment of Let’s Talk. My first post of this series (Having Standards That Are Too High or Too Low) was a success, thank you. I received an overflow of support and messages about the post, which motivated to continue with this new series. Today we are continuing the discussion of finding a partner. Do you believe in “The One”? That when you were created, you created to be with one soulmate. This theory is debatable so let’s dive into it friends.

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Fate Vs. Destiny

Before I give my personal opinion of “The One”, it’s important to define fate and destiny. These two mindsets both have to do with one’s future and fortune. Fate is a mindset that one has no control over what happens to them in the future, that it is all preplanned by the gods. Destiny is a concept that states everything that happens to you is meant to be, however unlike fate you have the power to take matters into your hands. With destiny, you have free will but with fate, it’s all divinely planned.

I believe that there are certain things in life that happen to us that are meant to be and that they happen to us for a reason, however, in order for those predestine events to occur we have to make certain decisions. The power is in our hands when you realize this fact, that’s when you can do anything that you set your mind to. It’s our choices, actions, and mindset that help us to arrive at our destiny. If you believe in fate then you won’t be as motivated in life compared to someone who has a destiny sort of mindset. Your outlook on fate Vs. destiny is strongly correlated with whether you believe in “The One” or not.

Do you believe in having one soulmate?

I personally do not believe in there being “The One”, that we only have one soulmate because if that was true then divorce would not rule today’s marriages and heartbreaks would not exist. When most people get married they believe they are marrying their true soulmate, however then life happens and their soulmate is no longer “The One”. The one is a fairy tale that most of us wish was the reality. It’s a romantic belief that paints a perfect love story and declares that if you do not end up with the one person whom you are supposed to be with, then you will be miserable. There is a pressure to end up with that one person and if you mess that up, then you screw with your entire future. I personally don’t have the energy to deal with that kind of stress. Who you decide to marry is a choice and if you make the right choice it can mean that it is something that was predestined by God. Predestined doesn’t mean that everything will be perfect and easy, you still have to work hard to build and maintain a solid union.

Compatible with multiple people

There are billions of people on this planet, therefore it’s impossible to only be compatible with only one person. You can be compatible with more than one person and from there you have to make a decision with whom you wish to be with.

The right decision can feel like your soulmate

When you make a confident decision of who you wish to spend the rest of your life with, it can feel like you found your soulmate. I am a hopeless romantic, don’t let this post fool you. I also daydream of meeting that person who will make me feel like I am not supposed to be with anyone else other than him. However, it doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t be happy if I had decided to be with someone else. That’s why there are some people who believe that we have different types of soulmates which might be a more accurate theory than there just being in one soulmate.

Alright, that’s the end of today’s Let’s Talk segment. Thanks for reading and let’s start a discussion in the comment section, do you believe in “The One”? I want to hear your opinion on having just one soulmate. Hope that you have a great weekend and remember that you are fearfully and fashionably made!


stay blessed


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