Welcome back, friends. On February 25th, I turned 21 years old. Today I decided to share 21 things that I have learned in my 21 years.
1. It’s not over until it’s over.
I have been through situations that have tested my resilience and my desire to actually achieve my goals. During those challenging moments when the easiest option was to just quit, I learned to not give up until it’s actually over. I learned to not give up until there is nothing else that I can do to change the situation. Having an entourage that believes in you and that does not let you give up on your dreams is a blessing and the reason why I have not given up on dreams thus far.
2. Sometimes FEAR is a great reason to keep going.
Don’t let fear stop you from pursuing what you want to accomplish. If something makes you feel nervous that’s because you are afraid of the worst that can happen. I have learned that when something is important to you and you are afraid, you MUST keep going.
3. You are worth more than you think.
Life experiences have a way of defining our worth, as a result, we sometimes underestimate our worth. I have learned to not let people (especially guys) or social media likes define my worth. I am more amazing than I think. I am more strong than I think. I am more valuable than diamonds because I am a child of God.
4. You are more than enough.
Situations can sometimes make you feel like you are not good enough, smart enough or pretty enough but the devil is a liar because we are all fearfully and fashionably made. I have learned through my disappointing situations that I am more than enough, that nothing is wrong with me and that simply that situation was not meant to be.
5. Do not chase fame but instead impact.
As a fashion blogger, it’s easy to get caught up in the numbers and the desire to become “famous” but the truth is fame is meaningless if you do not use it to make a change and to positively impact the lives of others. I have learned that my number one goal should be to make a difference not to become famous.
6. We all have a purpose and must fulfill our purpose.
“Why was I created? What is my talent? What is my purpose?” Are questions that everyone encounters at least once in their life and at 21 I can finally say that I have a clear answer to these questions. Purpose is a reflection of who you are and how you can use your abilities to help others. I have also learned that you can not run away from purpose because it’s like running away from yourself; purpose will chase you down until you start walking in your purpose.
7. Prayer changes everything.
I believe there is power in prayer to move mountains. In my 21 years, some players have not been answered and thousands have been answered. It’s important to bring everything (small or big) to God in prayer and it’s also important to thank God through the good and bad seasons of life. I have learned prayer brings peace, change, blessings, healing, and clarity.
8. God loves you even when you sin.
This is a truth that the devil does not want people to know. God’s love is NOT something we have to earn by obeying Him or being “perfect”. God’s love is independent of our own doing, He loves us unconditionally. I have learned that God never stops loving us, He loves us even when we sin but hates sins. The devil brings condemnation and his plan is to keep you from God but know that when you feel most far from God that He still loves you.
9. Nothing in this world can make you full.
Everything that we do or buy to bring happiness is momentary. I have learned that we eventually have to buy more or do more to be satisfied again.
10. Faith is believing that it is already done when your eyes see that it is impossible.
I have learned that faith is not the certitude of something happening that we know will happen but the strong belief that something can happen even if we do not know how or when. Faith is what helps us keep going and not lose hope.
12. Good people have haters too.
You can be the nicest person in the world but still, have one person that does not like you because that is the nature of humans. Not everyone will like you or has to you like and that is okay.
13. Jealously is mean.
Everyone gets jealous but know that jealousy can lead to an evil thing if not controlled. I have learned that jealousy can bring out the worst in people so it’s important to maintain jealously and to not intentionally make others jealous.
14. Grades do not define your intelligence just your memory and effort in a moment.
Everyone is smart in their own way, however, the education system programs students in believing that their intelligence is based on their grades. Yes getting good grades is my priority but I have learned that my grades do not define my intelligence just my understanding in a particular moment during a particular test.
15. Ignoring someone does not make the problem disappear.
Avoiding someone is the east thing to do but also the worst thing you can do during a conflict. Ignoring someone that is important to you is the worst thing that you can do to yourself and the other person. I have learned that it causes more anger and pain. It is better to address the situation and end on a peaceful note if the friendship/ relationship must come to an end than to ignore the person.
16. Practice love even when people do not “deserve” it.
No one deserves God’s unconditional love but as a Christian, I have learned that God wants us to love others as He loves us. I have learned that walking in love no matter what is not easy but one must choose to be love because this world desperately needs love and peace.
17. Sin starts with what you see and what you think.
I have learned how important it is to guard your eyes against what you see on social media, television, in movies or your environment that can lead you to sin against God because sin starts with your sight. Just like in the Garden of Eden, the devil used sight to trick Eve that the apple was good. It is also important to guard your thoughts because what you think is what you end up doing. No one is perfect and we are all sinners but we must try to keep our thoughts on all things that are good, pure and holy.
18. Self-care is important.
It’s important to take a break and do the things that you enjoy or else you will burn out from working nonstop. I have learned that it’s important to treat yourself because if you do not do it for yourself, no one will do it for you.
19. Message and call your friends and family more often.
Something that I am guilty of is not calling or messaging people that I do not see every day more often. Just because I do not call or message you on a regular, it does not mean that I do not care about you. However, I have learned that it hurts people because they take it the wrong way and that I should make an effort to message or call my friends and family members more often.
20. Money comes and goes but be smart by saving it.
I love shopping as you already know but I have learned on my broke days that it is important to save my money just like I love to spend my money.
21. Travel whenever you can.
Last summer I got the travel bug, now I want to travel whenever I can. Traveling opened my eyes to different cultures and gave me unforgettable life experiences. I have learned that traveling is the best thing to spend your money on.
Congrats you made it to the end of the 21 things that I have learned in my 21 years. Hope that you enjoyed today’s blog post. Have a great weekend and remember that you are fearfully and fashionably made!